War of Love

    Do men ever truly love you? In the beginning when they are pursuing you they'd treat you like a princess, say all the right things, do all the fancy stuff and be a complete gentleman. Once they've got you, there is a drastic change in their behavior. The free spirited being who seemed like he was born a century earlier because of his forward thoughts all of a sudden is an all binding orthodox. An absolute change of character where everything you do is scrutinized and judged like you're a criminal being prosecuted. Anything and everything you do is wrong and you should've apparently asked their advice before taking that step. Where is all that big talk about men and women being equal crap gone? The belief that the era is long gone where women were considered to have a lower position in the society and they are totally capable of making their own decisions?

     Supposedly when guys hang out with their "chick friends" its acceptable and normal and there is no reason for us to feel insecure but WE girls cant do that with our guy friends. A wee bit hypocritical don't you think? True love as described in books and movies shouldn't want to cage you and shouldn't expect you to follow orders like a pet. True love should have full faith on the other. Okay, I agree that we do make mistakes, its not like we were carved perfect but you shouldn't have to hold on to it and bring it out in every argument you make even when its not relevant to the conversation. Its so frustrating when they don't even wanna hear your side of the story or give you a chance to explain the situation. Maybe your point of argument is valid and if we accept our folly and are apologizing then forgive us rather than staying mad about it and constantly fighting about it. I think if women were angry about the same stuff then they mostly would forgive their partner. We are humans and bound to make mistakes and then learn our lessons. Women kinda have always been the kinder lot. We melt down too easily. Blame it on estrogen. Damn you hormone!!!! Sometimes I wish we were stronger and learn to hold our ground for longer. We don't let our egos play a bigger role while making decisions. We listen to our hearts more than anything else and let the emotions take the better of us. Men listen to their egos. Their egos are their best friends, advocates and lovers. Egos make them feel better about themselves. Their egos kinda makes them believe that they are somehow always right! I mean how is it even possible that a person is ALWAYS right? I think there really is a gene that inculcates the male chauvinism into guys. I mean it comes pretty naturally to them. Its impossible that they learn or adapt that characteristic over time. Nope! Its in them. In every freaking cell in their bodies! It always has to be "My way" or "No way". Its so bloody annoying!

    Its hard to believe that in the 21st century men still haven't changed and that they are the same chauvinistic pigs that they were before. Looks like this one attribute doesn't change no matter how much they evolve. They would give up on love but not their ego. They would rather live alone than accept that their partner's right. Becoming fathers somehow mellows them down but does not entirely get rid of that "I'm always right attitude". I really wish men were actually like how they are portrayed in the books and the movies. I guess relationships wouldn't be that hard to manage then. Whatever you may do but men just somehow are never pleased, there still will be something to complain about or just not good enough. *sigh* 

Cliched

Has anyone ever been able to describe LOVE? Millions of books have been written about this four letter word since times immemorial. But have they been able to successfully describe or explain it? Probably if you ask ten different people to describe love, they would all give you varied answers. What love means to a person is unique and how it makes them feel also differs. We have read millions of books and seen a ton of movies based on love and romance and how lovers are willing to sacrifice their lives for each other's sake, but how often does that actually happen? People nowadays change partners like a pair of clothes and change the relationship status to keep up with the trends. How can they love one person today and another by next week? So is the concept of a soul-mate and one true love bogus? Does that only happen in fairy-tales? Is the idea extinct to the gen-next? In an era where technology can help you stay connected with your partner all day long and keep you updated about what are they up to like you were right next to them, couples still tend to have trust issues. If you cant believe your eyes and ears, then I don't understand what shall one trust? In the good olden days when one letter took days and months to reach their beloved, they still managed to keep the romance alive. When does information become too much information? Is technology driving partners away? Is it not working because all mystery is lost? Well, one can never be sure.
If that isn't frustrating enough there comes the biggest murderer of love, DISCRIMINATION. Yes, how many stories have you heard that lovers have given up on the relationship because of differences in caste, creed, religion and race. You would say that doesn't happen anymore. You're mistaken. It is immensely prevalent in the 21st century too. People give up because they think their families won't agree or those who buck up the courage to stand up against their families for the right to love are massacred. Should love really be killed because you don't share the same faith? How does it matter by what name you refer to your God or what place of worship you go to? Don't all Holy books say the same thing that there's only one Supreme Power? Then who are we as humans to create the divide? Do people from different religions look different? Or do they breathe from their eyes? Or do they not eat food and survive on sunlight? As long as you are falling in love with a human I don't see any problems. The entire concept of religion is appalling. I think the only thing we should be believing in is HUMANITY and the kind of dark ages we live in its of utmost importance. I believe in God too but do not have blind faith. He is the guide and savior but I don't think he'd want us to kill in His name. Love is a wonderful feeling. It makes you feel blissful and blessed. No one should ever have to be afraid to love. Love is the only driving force that can help us get through this long life we need to live. Families should understand that their kids know who can keep them happy and they are capable of making the decision of choosing their life partners. Living a life with someone you don't love is difficult and its not a sacrifice you have made for your family but instead a compromise you have made for your life. A life lived on compromise is never fulfilling. It is a drag and unsatisfying. Some day many years down the line you'll realize that you made a mistake and half a lifetime has passed away and you think now there's no point and you've lived a dissatisfied life.So my sincere advice grab the one you love and strive it out with them. No matter how hard it seems at times but in the end you'll be happy and that is what matters. Don't ever give up love. It is what makes the world go round.  So Love and let love!         

The beginning

Okay. So I'm sure you'll be wondering what De-lifed actually is. Nothing special to be honest. Its normal stuff happening in an average girl's life. Small issues that appear like life threatening crisis. So now you'll wonder why you be bothered a "Nobody's life". Well maybe because you can relate to me too and feel that your not the only person whose going through all the mess in the world. I'm right here feeling just like you do.
So I'm your average 21 year old who jumps up and says she's 18 when asked how old she is. No matter how old you get your kinda stuck at being 18. 18 seems so enticing. It makes you feel that you can conquer the world. Your not too old neither are too young. It makes you feel a little powerful! ;) you know what I mean. How I wish I could just go back to being 18 or even 14 for that matter. Although your teenage years last only for 7 years but it feels like forever. You just never want it to end. Being in school was so much more easier. Doing your home-work, staying out of trouble in class and home, those sleepovers and trying to get crush's attention were probably considered a real hard task. I wish I could just go back to doing that. *sigh*
College kills you. Now I'm in my final year of engineering and there's like so much I gotta do and plan and get everything worked out. So I'm into biotechnology and I wanna do my Post graduation abroad and I have to give these qualifying exams and I haven't even started preparing. In my final semester I have to do project that actually involves doing your own experiments and drawing results and write a thesis. Like way too much burden on a young mind! :( . I have my vacations going on and all i did was eat. sleep and watch TV! I had been wanting to start with a blog a month back. So you can imagine how lazy I'm being. =P. If your story's similar to mine then join the bandwagon! Sometimes I wish I was an amoeba. Life would be so much more simpler! All I had to do was divide! =P. But no I turned out to be a human. Well now that I have this life I'd like to make good use of it and try to make this world a better place with whatever little contribution I can make! So with De-lifed you'll never feel alone! =)